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Hey Mars, do you know the etiquette for allowing guests to have dates/not????  I was wondering this myself!

i don't think there's any real etiquette for it. like beach meg said, it's really personal preference and how many you are willing to accomodate. our rule is that SOs get invited if they're spouses, if they're living together or if they're in a long term relationship (6 months at the BARE MINIMUM). a lot of our friends are "serial daters" and they have a new BF/GF every week, or their single. i know they want  to have a date and everything, but they all know each other and they can be each others dates! my parents really did take over the guest list, and FI and I aren't left with much room to breath so only the EXTRA special people are invited! HTH!

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Originally posted by bubbles bubbles wrote:

Hey Mars, do you know the etiquette for allowing guests to have dates/not????  I was wondering this myself!

I think I read this on the Knot but i'm not sure, it may have been from one of my bridal magazines but I read that you only have to invite someones guest if its a commited relationship. If not then you dont  have to allow them to take a guest. Just make sure that they understand that on the invites.

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I think its rude though that people invite themselves. Don't they think before they say something like that? I'm sorry but I don't think a lot of people understand that you are paying for every person who attends and that you will invite who you want to invite not who wants to be invited. I haven't had this happen to me yet but if someone does invite themselves then uh oh all hell might break loose!
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at our engagement party we had some weird chick...who I didnt know and who my FI kinda knew (wife of an old friend of his he he doesnt speak with anymore) who went on and on about her coming to the wedding. I think she actually said "I can't wait to see you in August". I just smiled and my FI was baffled. I think you should just take it with a grain of salt. Invite who you want. If they don't get an invite they should know they are NOT invited.
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I would get a sense of if the single people you are inviting have someone they woudl bring. I agree that if they are seriously dating someone you should ask them. Etiquette also says you should ask every invitee who is bringing a guest what that guests name is. I just found out my aunt is bringing someone. So now I know. I am only inviting guests for the ones who I know are dating someone and will bring them and I will be finding out his/her name to appropriately put on the invite.
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Originally posted by blublusher blublusher wrote:

Originally posted by bubbles bubbles wrote:

Hey Mars, do you know the etiquette for allowing guests to have dates/not????  I was wondering this myself!

I think I read this on the Knot but i'm not sure, it may have been from one of my bridal magazines but I read that you only have to invite someones guest if its a commited relationship. If not then you dont  have to allow them to take a guest. Just make sure that they understand that on the invites.



I have this problem as well, but its a little closer to home.  Its my MOH!  She just broke up with her boyfriend, and told a mutual friend that if she wasnt dating someone by the time I get married, that she was just gonna bring the mutual friends brother.  I know him, and like him, but not enough to invite him to the wedding, especially considering all the people that I had to trim of the list that I love!  Is it rude to tell her she cant just bring anyone she feels like?  I mean I dont want her to be alone, but she really wont be, and since she is the MOH, she will be kinda busy....right?
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My coworker keeps going on and on about how she wants to bring her PEN PAL, who she's never actually met in person, to my wedding!  I don't want someone I've never met at my wedding, let alone someone she's never even met.   Grrr.  So I finally said "actually, we're really concerned about our guest list getting too big,"  but she still keeps mentioning it.
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This is just really frustrating for me.....between my FI's family having a guest list of 134 people and then my dads list of 68...and I am still waiting for FI's list, which I am waiting for so I can see who I can invite/not!!!!  ugh.  I don't want people to be pissy with me because one person could bring a date and another couldn't...but this is expensive!!!!  Sorry gals, just needed to b*tch!
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I feel Im fighting two people. My FI is one of them since he has such a big heart and NEVER has the heart to say no to anyone for anything he has put himself in the situation where we have to invite more people. Cause they start mentioning it then he gets suckerd in to saying yeah, "so remember to save the date" AHHH I could kill him. 2nd- People that's have known us for the past 4 years but we don't see all that much expect in travel for his work, but because they have been in our lives they think that they should come. They are older parent type couples that are awesome but ahhh I HAVE NO ROOM. Im hoping that since they will be from OOT they just won't come and I will just have to send an invite to send it. I also didnt send STD so they forget to plan for it.
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I forgot to thank you mars, blublusher, msmardel, calohgirl!!!  I appreciate the input!

Ness, I feel ya!  FI said something to the effect of he is inviting people that are friends of his, but actually more friends of his friend but if he invites one then the others will feel left out.....um, hello $100/per head so someone won't feel left out?????  I have decided that he has until tomorrow night to give me his list and if he doesn't then I go ahead with mine and he is SOL!  ( I have been waiting for three months!)



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