SAN DIEGO WEDDINGS     INSPIRATION     DISCUSSION BOARD     CONCIERGE     VENDORS     EXPERT ADVICE     AWARDS



  New Posts New Posts RSS Feed - drama between bridesmaid and Best Man
  FAQ FAQ  Forum Search   Register Register  Login Login

drama between bridesmaid and Best Man

 Post Reply Post Reply
Author
gdsreyes View Drop Down
Newbie
Newbie
Avatar

Joined: 1/08/2006
Location: San Diego
Status: Offline
Points: 8
Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote gdsreyes Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Topic: drama between bridesmaid and Best Man
    Posted: 3/03/2006 at 8:25pm
Ok..I have a situation.  I have a couple in my wedding party who's going through a separation.  They seemed to be fine in the beginning of our engagement when my FI and I asked them to be a part of our wedding.  But, as of recently, things have been getting ugly between them.  My FI and I now feel uncomfortable about their situation and that they both will be forced to attend our wedding events.  And I'm sure that it will be uncomfortable for them, as well.  We're much more comfortable and close to the Best Man then with his wife (1 of my bridesmaids).  The Best Man is on board with us.  His wife I haven't heard from in awhile.  I've e-mailed her and left her phone calls..but, nothing.  In my e-mail to her I let her know that we totally understand if being a part of our wedding is the last thing on her mind..and that as much as we want her to be a part of it..we totally understand if it's too uncomfortable for her or needs to take care of her and she wants to back out.  But, no response.  What do I do?  Or what should I do?  Talk about drama!!!  I just wanna get married, in peace.
Back to Top
Beach_Meg View Drop Down
Senior Member
Senior Member
Avatar

Joined: 6/08/2005
Location: San Diego
Status: Offline
Points: 360
Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote Beach_Meg Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 3/03/2006 at 10:52pm
You still have 8 months, 2 weeks and 1 day until your wedding! She is
having problems today. You really don't need to know for another 4 months
so maybe give her that time to decide what she wants to do and offer a
shoulder to lean on in the mean time.
Back to Top
jennaandzack View Drop Down
Senior Member
Senior Member
Avatar

Joined: 1/24/2006
Location: San Diego
Status: Offline
Points: 140
Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote jennaandzack Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 3/04/2006 at 4:19pm

too bad you're friends are going through this.

i'd leave her a msg or send her an email explaining to her that you're a new/nervous bride that wants to get all of her affairs in order and that if you don't hear from her by xx date, then you will assume she will be in attendance at the wedding but not in the wedding.  from there, i'd start developing plan b and getting another BM to "fill in."  caution, she's going through something very difficult so please do not read my response as cold and selfish - i definitely agree w/ Beach Meg - give her a shoulder to lean on.

- good luck

- jenna
Back to Top
gdsreyes View Drop Down
Newbie
Newbie
Avatar

Joined: 1/08/2006
Location: San Diego
Status: Offline
Points: 8
Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote gdsreyes Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 3/04/2006 at 4:38pm
thanks...I guess all I can do now is wait.  I've e-mailed her, left her msgs, and told her to call me if she needs to.  And nothing..yet.  My FI and I have discussed it and if worse comes to worse...if we need to have an uneven number in our wedding party..we're totally fine with that.  1 of my maids will just have to be the pimp-ette with a groomsman on each arm.  hahaha!!
Back to Top
woopsdz View Drop Down
Senior Member
Senior Member
Avatar

Joined: 1/03/2006
Location: Marston Gardens/Tom Ham’s
Status: Offline
Points: 114
Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote woopsdz Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 3/04/2006 at 11:18pm
I think you've done all you can.  Just give her some time and space.  You don't want to bombard her with messages or e-mails during this difficult time.  Like you said, if worse comes to worse, you can have an un-even number, not a big deal.  You just want both of them to be comfortable with whatever the situation becomes.
I can't wait to marry my soulmate!! August 6, 2006


Back to Top
 Post Reply Post Reply
  Share Topic   

Forum Jump Forum Permissions View Drop Down

Forum Software by Web Wiz Forums® version 12.01
Copyright ©2001-2018 Web Wiz Ltd.