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    Posted: 3/04/2006 at 7:15pm
Hello ladies....
Like many of you, I wasnt going to journal either.  I have a blog on my "myspace" for my family to keep up to date on our plans, but Im not very good about writing in it.  I dont expect to be very good at it here either, but I figure that you all know what its like to be busy, and I have definitely found out that you are the most sympathetic and understanding group of women in all of San Diego (and elsewhere if you arent here).  All my life I have been dreaming of this day, and now that I actually have to plan it, its scaring the living daylights out of me. I have been to every bridal bazaar in san diego since I was 18.  I have boxes upon boxes of references and flyers, and handouts and such, and yet, I feel like I dont know what the heck I am doing.  I thank God every day for my sister, who is my savior, and MOH, my friends that are my rock, and most of all my FI, Mike, who is making me the happiest woman on earth.  Now that I have babbled....here is a little background.  On the next page.....
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Mike and I are a match.com success story.  I had been online dating for about 7 years before I met my prince.  I had definitely come across many frogs along the way.  About a year and a half before Mike came into my life, my parents decided to get a divorce after 28 years of marriage.  Needless to say, I developed a very warped outlook on love and marriage after that.  I didnt want to date, I didnt want to meet people, and I definitely didnt want to fall in love.  I stayed out of the dating scene for awhile, and decided to jump back in using the computer.  I figured I was almost 30, and that was too old to be bar hopping.  I tried eharmony, and yahoo personals before signing up for match.com.  The first two responses I got were from men that didnt even meet my desired qualifications.  Then along came Mike....

We had our first meeting at Starbucks.  You cant go wrong with a white chocolate mocha.  He walked up to me, introduced himself, and we sat down and began to get to know one another.  He seemed nice enough, had a job! and goals!  I was impressed and agreed to another date.  The following week, we had dinner at the Cheesecake Factory (score another point).  Each time we met, the conversation just came easily.  We had no "dead air" moments and found out that we had so much in common.  I am an absolute sports fan, and I often heard that men love women who love sports.  Well, I enjoyed them alot more than he does, let me tell you.  I have since converted him to a Nascar fan, a casual NBA fan, and he really looks forward to Charger season now!
Anyway, our third date was once again at Fashion Valley.  We just walked around the mall, had another Starbucks, and this time, when he walked me to my car, he got that elusive first kiss.  It was at that moment that I knew, this guy was genuine.  I was sold......

We started slow.  Once a week we would go out.  His job was very demanding, and I also worked full time, went to school two nights a week, and I take care of my 3 nephews one night a week.  Needless to say, squeezing in one date a week was tricky, but doable.  We went to Gulls games, Padre games, movies, the zoo, Sea World.  Going places I had gone a million times before, but this time it was different.  I was experiencing things with someone that shared my love of life, and love of my city, and it was so refreshing.  I could go on forever, but I wont.  I will get to the good stuff....the proposal.
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With us having such busy schedules, it sometimes got hard to spend quality time together.  September had been a really busy month for us, and one random day in mid-October, he asked me if we had any plans for the following weekend.  I checked the calender, and we didnt.  He told me to bring nice clothes over on Saturday, cause we were going somewhere "really nice"  Now really nice could mean anything from Outback to Claim Jumper in our world.  But I brought over a cute little red dress that made me feel pretty dressed up.  I even curled my hair, and put on makeup!!  I have to admit, that I felt like something was gonna happen that night, but it didnt actually happen like I though it would.

Mike was already dressed and waiting for me downstairs.  I floated down the stairs, and walked into the kitchen.  His eyes lit up as he saw me, and he told me that I looked beautiful.  I smiled, and turned to check myself out again, in the downstairs bathroom.  I primped for a minute, and I heard him say to me "Come here, I have something for you"
In my own head, I thought to myself, "um...we can do that later when we get home"    I came out of the bathroom and he was down on one knee, ring box open in his palm, and my sweet love shaking like a leaf.  I gasped, and he grabs my hand, and just blurts it out " I want to know if you will marry me?"  I had no words, no tears, no breath for a minute.  I just stood there, with my hand over my mouth.  An eternal moment of silence elapsed before I reached out, grabbed his hand, pulled him off his knee, and just hugged him.  He asked "is that a yes"  I pull back, and look into those big brown eyes, and just nod.  I just couldnt talk.  He put the ring on my finger, and I just stared at it.  He told me he had the ring for months and we just never seemed to have a weekend for him to ask me that all important question.  He told me we had reservations at a restaurant in La Jolla, and that he was gonna ask me there, but didnt think he could go through dinner without knowing if I would say yes.  I just kept nodding my head, and looking at my ring.  I looked at him and said...I dont wanna go to dinner.  He said we didnt have to, but just then, my stomach growled the loudest roar on the face of this earth.  We both laughed, and we decided to go eat.  I still had not spoken other than the not go to dinner request.
We got in the car and headed to La Jolla.  We had just got on the 52 to head in, when it finally hit me.  I started to cry, and I mean cry.....bawling like a baby.  He reached over and grabbed my hand, and I just let it all out.  By the time we got to Trattoria Acqua, I was a mess.  A big blubbering idiot.  But we parked, and I swear, that man had a grin on his face that wouldnt end.  I had to stop crying long enough to kiss him, long and hard, and tell him how much I loved him.  We finally made it to the restaurant, and ate a FAT dinner.  Afterwards, we walked along the beach, and neither of us stopped smiling once......the seals must have thought we were nuts.  So that marks the beginning of my fantastic voyage.....

.....to be continued......


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Well, now that we are engaged, its time to plan a wedding.  Mike is originally from Central California.  He came out here to go to college, and just never left.  My entire family is here, so it makes me feel better to have my entire support system at my disposal, although I would love to have his mom here.  We get along so well, and she is so delighted that her baby has found the love of his life.  But she plans to visit alot before the wedding.

Mike wants to be married immediately.  I mean if we could have planned a wedding for the next day, he would have loved it.  I told him I needed at least a year.  He reluctantly agreed, and our target date was November of 06.  I immediately recruited my sister to help me scout out locations. Two weeks after our engagement, my sis/MOH, and I had 8 appts. at various reception sites.  We did hotels - The Handlery, the Town and Country, Mission Valley Resort, Holiday inn by the Bay.  We had restaurants- Tom Hamms, Bali Hai.  We had Golf courses- Riverwalk, Cottonwood.  I took home the brochures to Mike, let him know which ones fit our budget, and asked him what he thought.  He liked the Bali Hai, but they had no availability for the entire year.  We both liked the Handlery, but it was just a little over our budget.  Nothing else really wowed us, so I made some more appts for the following week.

I work at a day care center.  Once news of Ms Marlena's engagement spread, I had advice coming out my ears.  One of the parents at my school happened to work at Sea World.  She told me to come out and take a look one day, and maybe I would find something there.  She brought me paperwork the next day.  It seemed to be within our budget.  I told Mike we were gonna go check out Sea World.  Once we got there, I think we were both sold immediately.  I mean, its by the water, its a very unique venue, and it was absolutely beautiful!!  I will also tell you that Mike has a cat named Shamu.  I think it was just meant to be.  We did look at a few more sites later that weekend, but on Monday, I called the wedding coordinator, she mailed out the contract, and by Friday, I had my reception site booked.  And the good news was that they had openings in September.  Mike was getting his wish after all....the sooner, the better.

Step 1 complete.  Reception site booked.....:)
I am gonna get married on September 9th, 2006!!
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Welcome to journaling MsMarDel!!!!! Your engagement story is really sweet. I definitely know what you mean about it not hitting you until a few minutes after the fact. It's like the shock wears off and all of a sudden you are like, "omg, we're getting married!" Your venue location is so unique, I love it.  I can't wait to hear more about your plans!
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Alwaysabrdsmaid - Thanks for reading my stories.  I love telling them, pretty much to anyone that will listen :)   Im so excited about my venue, and there is alot more to come.

 

Well, when you start planning a wedding, the first hurdle to jump....the dreaded budget.  Yes, i have some funds saved, and Mike jumped right in with the offer to contribute.  After all, its his wedding too, he says, and he wants it to be all I ever dreamed of.  Well, I am also Daddy's little princess, and he has given me a very generous amount.  Now that my parents are divorced, my mom also likes to compete for my affections, so she dangled some money in front of me too.  So I have a pretty good budget to work with.  But I am a saver, by nature.  I dont want to blow the whole wad, just because I have it.  I knew the bulk of the money was going to go towards the reception site/dinner.  So that was the first thing I had to take into consideration when looking for a site.  Cost, of course.  

Well, let me first tell you that in order to figure out what you can afford, you need an approximate number of guests, so you can calculate how much to spend per head.  That was not fun....are you all sitting??  My father, the best darn dad in the whole world, comes from a rather large Hispanic/Filipino family.  He has....count them.....17 brothers and sisters. I KNOW!!  And of course all of them have kids, and their kids have kids, and so on.  So I made up a rough draft guest list just days after my engagement.  This included all my closest friends, my mom's family, which isnt quite as large as dad's, some co-workers, and that ginormous family I was born into. Rough draft count....317.  Mike's rough draft count.....34.  HOLY COW!!  I cant afford to throw a party for 350 people.  I definitely had to 'trim some fat' as my dad put it.  We eventually cut all children under the age of 16 (except our 4 nephews, one niece, and the flower girl), any family we havent seen in over 5 years, and ended up with 175.  Much better....now breathe.....that number is doable.

With that nice round number in mind....lets continue planning.

 

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Okay, I told everyone I was gonna be bad at this.  Its been about two weeks since I wrote anything.  But I have been kinda busy...just got back from Las Vegas, woohoo!  It always takes me a few days to recuperate.  Besides, I havent dont any more planning since I last posted, so I really dont have anything new to say.  But I decided to come and share something fun

FI and I decided that we definitely wanted a wedding to remember.  Choosing Sea World as the venue was just one small step to making our special day the most memorable ever.  Well after further discussion with his mom, we decided to purchase what Sea World calls an "event enhancement"  Despite our very strict guest list, we opted to invite a few special guests to our reception. 



I hope it goes well.  They are already dressed in formal attire, and we just thought it was a cute idea. They will make for great photo opportunities too.  I just hope they dont smell bad.

While I am here, I want to send a special thank you to Kim (StevesKimmy) for the books, and offer of help.  It was nice to meet another BI bride.  I really wanted to go to the get-together you are all having next month, but my schedule just wont allow it.  Maybe the next one!

Thanks for reading!! Until my next post....




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