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    Posted: 11/20/2005 at 8:04pm

Ok, so I've decided to start one of these things because I'm a BI addict anyway and this just gives me something else to do when I've read though all the active topics. Plus, I’ve gotten so many great ideas from everyone here and I’d like to give back some of my own trials and tribulations. Just to warn everyone, I'm a Mac person and Mac people are punished on BI with weird formatting on posts. If anyone knows some way around this, please lemme know. So here we go, get comfy, in my life things always seem to take longer then I mean them to.

 

How we met…

 

FI and I both grew up in Chula Vista, CA and attended Chula Jr. and Chula High. I remember him vaguely from 8th grade PE, but I was so busy feeling awkward and faking asthma attacks to get out of volley-tennis that I didn’t talk to him ever. We had a few of the same classes in high school; he remembers me from 9th Grade HN English because I could write compound-complex sentences and I remember him screwing around and giving me the answers in geometry. We didn’t start hanging out till senior year because he dropped band and finally started eating lunch outside of the band room. If you haven’t figured it out yet, we were both nerds. We both hung out with the same group and I really liked his offbeat sense of humor.

 

Of course, the defining social event of anyone’s senior year is The Prom. I found out through trial and error that I have a better time at dances going with a guy friend, so FI and I came to the agreement that we would be each other’s backup date, a la My Best Friends Wedding. I thought we were clear, but three weeks before The Prom FI decided to ask a different girl! The jerk! S’ok though, because it made me work up the nerve to ask a college guy that I had been lusting after all year. College Guy said yes, we had a grand old time and we dated for almost a year afterwards.

 

College Guy and I broke up though, and I started working at Horton Plaza. FI was a freshman at UCSD and got promoted to assistant manager at the movie theater he worked at. The summer before sophomore year of college, I’d go by his theater to help him decorate and watch free movies and he’d come by Brookstone to sit in the massage chair. He usually felt guilty for distracting me during work and bought a cd or something at least once a week. Then he’d walk me back through downtown to my car after work. I thought we were just hanging out but in his mind something else was going on. Everyone seemed to notice but me. Finally, our friends confronted us about it and after a few weeks of awkwardness we went on an official first date, to a baseball game. Later we were walking around downtown and we sat in this sculpture fountain by the Convention Center. I decided I couldn’t handle the awkwardness anymore so I leaned over and kissed him, and we’ve been together ever since.

 

The engagement…

 

Fast forward six years later. Ryan and I did the long distance thing while I was at Santa Cruz, and I spent many breaks staying at his place and trying to hide from my parents while I was in town. (I know, I’m a terrible daughter, but they’re very traditional Catholic Filipino). I moved in with him when I came back to get my teaching credential at UCSD. Even though our friends had started getting married, over the past few years he didn’t feel ready. I, on the other hand, was getting pretty antsy. I’m famous for launching into my “I wanna get married!” rant whenever my blood alcohol level goes above the legal limit. But I had come to the point where I figured, if it happens, great. If not, I’m happy where I am, I’m young, and I love my guy. So whatevah.

 

This summer, I went away to the Philippines for 3 weeks and had an excellent time. I couldn’t keep in very good contact with him though, and I guess he was missing me pretty hard. I mean, I was missing him of course, but I was island hopping and prowling mega-malls, so it’s all relative. When I came back he picked me up from the bus station, and two minutes into the conversation he’s like “…so-I-was-thinking-we-could-maybe-go-look-at-rings.”

 

Long pause from me. “What?”

 

“You know, like tomorrow or something…”

 

Mind you, I’m jetlagged and not sure if I heard him right. Instead of saying yes, I kinda blew him off because it was a little out of the blue for me. (Napoleon Dynamite: “IDIOT!”)

 

The next morning, I woke up at 1pm bright-eyed and bushy-tailed and I asked if the offer was still on. We started looking at rings and picked one out over the next month.

 

I was still big on having him surprise me though, so I didn’t want to even see the thing till he did it right. I had some ground rules too: 1. Not in a public place where everyone knows it’s gonna happen. 2. Not in food. I didn’t want to take something covered in chocolate mousse and stick in on my finger. Or worse yet, choke on it. 3. Not at a sporting event. This was a funny rule, because we’ve actually only been to like 3 sporting events since that first baseball game.

 

So we had a vacation coming up, and I knew it was coming then. I mean, it haaad to be. We were going to go camping with his family in Utah and then to Las Vegas for a little private time together. One time he asked me what the most beautiful place I’d ever been to was… he said it was a question on one of those online get-to-know-you chain letters. I told him it was the Eiffel Tower in the year 2000, when it was just covered with sparkling lights. (Found out later he dosen’t even remember asking me that.) So of course, as a female I used my natural powers of deduction to figure out he would propose at the Paris Casino up on their Eiffel Tower. Maybe, maybe at the fountains at the Bellagio. But I had him pegged, I even dragged a full on outfit and makeup bag with me through the Utah woods cause I had to look good for that special moment.

 

Well, he certainly got the surprise part of the criteria down, because he popped the question the 3rd day into camping. The day before his cousin had French braided my hair and secured it with hairspray. I had taken the braids out that morning and I was one step away from dreads. I also hadn’t showered in 3 days. We had just woken up and were laying there all smelly together, me with my left arm behind his head. The tent window was open, everything outside was covered in dew and the sunlight was streaming down through the trees and onto the pile of dried elk dung sitting 3 feet from the tent. Then, Ryan says “Hey, I need you to hold on to something for me… just for the next 50 years or so” and before I processed what he said, he slides the ring onto my finger. Instead of the usual yes, I said “You’re asking me NOW?!?” Then we hugged and kissed and cuddled. It was perfect. Plus I figure if he proposed to me then (knowing what I looked like) he is definitely a keeper!

 

My super-sparkly ring

 

My BI name is MsSilverios because it’s a combo of my last name and his. I am Silverio and bent on keeping my name, he is Rios and dosen’t care if I keep my name. I mean, it’s my name and has been my whole life, and it’s much more colorful than Rios (I was a women’s studies major for a semester at Santa Cruz and it hasn’t worn off). I may change my mind when we have kids and things get complicated. I realized after we got engaged that we could just add an -s on to my name (or a silve- on to his) and with our powers combined form a super-name. Surprisingly, he’s not too keen on changing his name though. Everyone else seems to think it’s funny.

 

Nerd love.

 

 



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On to the planning…
The Date: July 22, 2006! I’m a 4th grade teacher, so I’m trying to take advantage of my summer off. Believe me though, teachers need the break! Don’t give ‘em a hard time about having an easy job because of summers off! It really irks them!! Especially the newer ones, like me. Ok, getting off soapbox…
The Budget: Started at $10 K but has ballooned to $13K,esp. because of the increasing guest list.
Guests: 150. Started at 120, but of course my parents, FILs, and FI and I all forgot people. Swelled to 170, but we were brutal and cut people. We’re down to 150 A listers, 20 B listers, and 2 C listers (Dad invented the C list, haha)
Colors: Dark brown (choc or espresso), various shades of dusty pink, ivory.

Vendors as of right now...

Ceremony – BOOKED - St Agnes Catholic Church, Point Loma
www.saint-agnes.org
This is a great little church that’s got a simple Spanish feel and great stained glass windows. Also, they don’t make you find your own priest, which was hard for me being a gypsy-Catholic.

Reception – BOOKED - Marina Village Sunset Room
www.marinavillage.net
We were going to go with one of the smaller rooms but I just fell in love with the Sunset Room. FI and I woke up at 5AM the morning they started booking for July 06 only to find a line had already started – people were sleeping in their cars. They had a security guard to keep things from getting ugly but he didn’t do much. Lucky for us, everyone was after the larger rooms (Bayview?) and I think it worked out for everyone in the end.

The Dress – ARRIVED! -
Casablanca 1792
from their Fall 2005 collection ordered from RSVP Bridal saves tons of money (I saved about 50%!) and Karen is great about emails. Casablanca also lets you do tons of customations. I love my dress, it’s uber girly. Not what I thought I would have gone for, but I love it. Gotta do a ton of chair dips to make my arms as toned as the model’s though. Damn models.


                                 I am a girly-girl.

Bridesmaid dresses – J Crew - ORDERD - These are not the original dresses we were going for, but the other ones were too casual. That was the only thing the BMs and I agreed on until we found these. A bit over our budget, but something we will be wearing again. I got one for myself in ivory to wear at the family party the next day :)


                        Tres preppy, but so are my sisters.

Hair- BOOKED - Freddie from Golden Touch
Haven't had my trial yet, but he fits in my budget perfectly and does great work from the pictures I've seen. Though I heard it's best if you bring specific pictures

Makeup - BOOKED - Mara, The Brow Queen
619.521.1350
Had my trial with her this January, check Pg. 6 for photos. Excellent airbrushed work and the cost of the trial goes toawrd the cost day of (only $75 total).

Groomsmen Attire -
The guys are wearing barongs, my dad is looking for some while he's in the Philippines, but otherwise we'll order offline from mybarong.com or go to Tatak in National City.

Photographer – BOOKED – Susan Yee
oceantsunamiphotography.com
Susan was super sweet and I loved her work! She had the best package in our budget, I’m sure she could charge more for her work but she’s still new to SD.

DJ – BOOKED – Art Flores
Art was great to meet with and had an excellent price for all he offered. He also works for a flat rate for the entire event, so no charge for extra hours.

Invitations – BOOKED, sort of, with LJ Printing in National City.
My uncle runs a small printing business and is hooking me up as a wedding gift. Haven’t actually looked at any invites yet. I like making stuff and being creative though, so I might do lots of it myself and just have him print the text. Still deciding.

Save the Dates – Working on it – Took the photos finally, now looking at scanning them and designing a layout. Might still to the magnet thing with Vista Pring. I heard from another bride that the US Postal Service can make custom post cards to send out too, which might be a better option.

Catering – BOOKED – The Abbey
The Abbey
Zapher was great at our tasting. The food was excellent, also he has specials during the slow season where food is 50% off. Dinner for 150 and a chocolate fountain!

Flowers – BOOKED - Karen’s Floral Artistry
karensfloralartistry.com
Karen was really nice to meet with and fit almost everything into my teeny-weeny budget. Flowers for all attendants and the cake, she was going to do centerpieces too but I’m putting those on hold because we might be going with long rectangular tables instead of round ones (guest list again). We’re going with a blend of roses, and carnations in shades of pink and ivory.

Cake – BOOKED – Shirley the Cake Lady is my new adopted granny. 3 teirs and a sheet cake, coconut for the top (FI pick) choc raspberry for the bottom layer and butter strawberry for the sheet cake and mid teir. She uses non dairy whipped icing, so most of the design ideas I had aren't going to fly. Still hunting for the design of my dreams.

Videographer – Researching – A friend’s coworker might be able to do raw footage, which I’d be cool with editing later. That’s what Macs are for.

Decorations Craigs List
www.craigslist.com
I found a ton of votives here for really cheap and plan to put them back on here when the wedding’s done. Great resource! I’m also thinking of using white xmas lights (with white cords) wrapped in
lots of tulle. For the centerpieces, I'll be floaring large flowers in these round 6 inch vases I got from another BI bride.
Also, I've began to look at rental companies for chair covers and table linens. I can't see myself paying $4 or $5 for a chair cover though... but the Marina Village chairs are office-y at best. Still struggling with this one.

Honeymoon - BOOKED! -  Princess Western Carribean Cruise CruiseShopping.com
I searched the internet and Cruiseshopping.com had the cheapest price. Buying it online has made me a little nervous (as well as the hurricane risk), but I'm very excited about the itinerary. It was a splurge, but you know... this is a once in a lifetime deal and while I've been pretty tight with everything else I'm willing to let this one go and just enjoy it.



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Silverlos--
Wow so far so good..

We are also going to probably go with Art - we are going to watch him in action on Saturday. Also we are making the final decision with Zapher this week- I have emailed a few brides who used him and they have all had nothing but possitive feedback.

 I like your Journal and your story  - The dress beautiful!

You guys are funny- I am not changing my name either - My 3 daughters all have my name so I feel obligated to them to continue to carry it - So My FI is cool with that - I always call myself THURLOS - which is a mix of our names too - THURMAN and AVALOS - he is not to keen on it either-

I just thought it was funny - how we both are wanting to keep the names and blending- continue journaling

Have a good night
Monica
                              

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I'm loving your journal! I definitely did the same thing when FI and I were at different colleges. I would come to visit and not tell my parents-glad to hear someone else has that little evil streak!

And your dress is super pretty! I love Casablanca (I have 1723).

looking forward to more!

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Happybridesd,

Haha, good to know someone else is dealing with the name change drama. Some people are reacting really oddly, I didn't think it was going to be a big deal at all.

soontobeconsi,

I love the whole Casablanca line! I fell in love with 1740 after I orderd mine and gave myself a serious case of dress envy. I'm cool now though. I can't wait till it gets here.

Ok, and now to put my journal to practical use. I am forever losing or forgetting planners so...

Things for this week:

  • try to book Engaged Encounter evenings
  • book Lorraine - she's so popular!
  • book more cake tastings - so far have Kathy's, Twiggs and Shirley (for Dec)
  • finalize caterer!!!
  • get BMs' measurements and order J Crew dresses
  • make some changes about florals before booking
  • take the save the date photos

Oy, that's way more than I thought. Ugh. Oh yeah, two more important ones...

  • let go of all hopes of sticking to diet and gorge myself of turkey and pumkin pie
  • work it all off during marathon mall walk during Friday after-Thanksgiving sales

 



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You better get on your Pre Cana and Evenings with the engaged - We turned in our paperwork in the Middle of Sept - and will be doing our PRE-CANA on DEC 4th and they still have to tell us when our evenings will be - Would that not be cool - if we got the same group?

 

                              

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Hey MsSilverios! Your wedding is a week before mine, so it will be fun to watch your progress!

You are so funny!  I love the story of how you meant, and how you were too busy faking asthma attacks to notice him  

I also love your engagement story -- way to go to him for surprising you when he probably knew you were expecting it!

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happybride -

That would be awsome! I actually already did the pre cana and it was pretty good. There was one sweet couple in particular with lots of good things to say. I thought I sent off the paperwork at the same time, but something got lost along the way. PM me when you find out where your Evenings will be, St. Agnes dosen't do them because they don't have a host couple in residence so I've got to hunt around.

Katie -

I've been looking at your journal and you are lightyears ahead of me :) And all of it is beautiful! You are so talented. Yeah, FI has come a long way. On our first anniversary he got me purple tube lights wrapped in the Urban Outfitters bag they came in.

Floral Notes:

Thinking of doing something like this with the massive number of votives I got from Craig's list, alternating flowers and candles. kayjaysgirl has a much prettier example on her vendor report, I love those centerpieces! Probably more cost effective too.

 

Also, thinking of going from traditional BM bouquets in ivory and pink to having the florist make more corsage-sized pieces and attaching them to the handle of sandalwood fans. (Again, we are poor... or will be we all of this is said and done. But also happily married and halfway to a foreign country.. ha, creditors be damned!) I'm incorporating some Filipino elements into the wedding and I think this might go well with the guy's barongs (dress shirts).

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Hi MsSilverios...

...just got your message in my vendor review, so I had to stop by and check out your journal.  I love the story of how you guys met and got engaged...you guys are too cute together (even if you did go to CVHS I'm a CPHS grad).

It looks like you are on the ball planning your wedding, and everything sounds beautiful.  I look forward to reading and seeing how it all unfolds.  I'm sure it will be a day to remember, for you and your guests.  Keep up the good work girly!

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Hi MsSilverios!

Everything sounds great so far!  You and your FI are very cute together!    Great proposal story! 

And I have to say... I love the BM dresses!  I didn't know that JCrew had a bridal line.  I have to check that out and see what they have... thanks for the tip!  We booked Susan Yee as our photographer too.  Isn't she great and so bubbly?  Her albums are bee-yoo-tee-ful!  Call Shirley ASAP, she's one busy bee!  After tasting her cakes, I think you'll be set, they're just so delicious!

BTW, I'm an Montgomery High grad (way back when - 10 years ago)... yay for the Sweetwather High School district.  Hehe...

Happy planning!  Can't wait to read more!

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